Saturday, September 25, 2010

For the Record

Oh my, you have all been so very sweet and kind with your comments and emails! I really appreciate each and everyone who took time. It's been so much fun getting to know you. I feel like I have my own personal group of cheerleaders! Let me set the record straight right now and let you know...Penny most certainly appreciates me.

I am so fortunate to have found Penny. We truly complete each other! She shows me constantly how much she loves me. She tells me everyday how much she loves and appreciates all that I do (and really, I don't feel like I do anything). I feel like I am the lucky one in the relationship.

I don't know any other couples who have the freedom (not really sure this is the right word here, but I'm not sure which other one works) that we give to one another. If I want to travel across a couple of states to visit friends or family and Penny has to work, then off I go. It's been this way the entire span of our marriage. We've even inspired other married couples that if you want to go somewhere and your spouse doesn't want to or can't for some reason, then it's ok. Traveling somewhere alone doesn't make you less of a married couple, it means you trust each other.

I'm not saying I've never been jealous, but I do try very hard not to give in to that petty emotion. We chose to be with one another. We both gave it very serious thought. We had serious talks about how the "rest of our lives" would go, or what we expected from one another. We agreed on the important things. We also agreed that we'd never have to see eye to eye on other things like matters of politics or have the same favorite SEC football team (hey, we are in the south ok).

It works for us. I couldn't have dreamed up a better marriage as a child. I didn't actually. The sad thing is I am constantly amazed at the love (and lust) I feel fourteen years later. (Almost fourteen and a half!) I never knew it could be this good. I sincerely wish what we have on every person who gets married.

It does take work (everything does not, I repeat does not just magically go smoothly, lots of things require discussion and thought and more discussion). I am not "perfect", but Penny and I are perfect for each other. I do think a large part of what makes us such a great couple is that I accept all that Penny is. I do not think that it could be this great if I didn't want to actively be a part of every aspect of her life. I think she'd know in an instant if I lied or was faking. I am so thankful that I have Penny. I couldn't have "ordered" a better spouse.



  1. All other things aside, it is quite lovely to see you register your love for Penny here this morning. Mrs. Bellejambes is about a dozen time zones away just now as I write this note, and the house is quiet (except for the Neil Halstead Pandora channel).

    I'd like to be with her where she is, but not having the time for this trip, I delight in her freedom to go and be with family at a time when she needs to. It is vital to not hold people back.

    She will be home a couple of days before our 15th anniversary.

    It is difficult to act, constantly, with the gratitude we know that we have, and so little reminders like yours today are a good little nudge in that good and necessary direction.

    Keep up the good work you two.

    xxoo - Petra

  2. Once again Petra says it better than I could, about how easy it is to miss the important aspects of a marriage- saying/and blogging it is a real antidote to that. Thanks

  3. Best friends + best lovers = The daily double.



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